PART 1———
Irrational and Rational Self-Talk
Purpose
To focus on how irrational and rational self-talk can be used in common, practical events and situations.
Instructions
1. For each situation below, consider how you would feel and what you might say to yourself. Then, write an irrational and a rational belief about each situation.
SITUATION
You have to give a 5-minute speech in your college class (Example)
IRRATIONAL SELF-TALK
1. This is terrible.
TRATIONAL SELF-TALK
This is going to be difficult.
2. You didn’t meet a very important work deadline.
3. A friend cancelled a date with you.
4. You are criticized publicly in class or at work.
5. You’re having a final exam in your most difficult class.
6. You have just had a major “blow-up” with your fiancé/fiancée.
7. You were laid off from your job. 8. Write your own situation.
Discussion
1. Was it easier for you to write the irrational or the rational self-talk and beliefs? Why?
2. How many times did you use should, should not, must, ought, have to?
3. How many times did you write awfulizing statements?
4. How many times did you make overgeneralizations?
5. How do you think irrational self-talk contributes to a common situation becoming more stressful?
PART 2——-
Situation: Your co-worker has been asking you to change shifts with him/her. You only have two or three hours’ notice of the desired shift change.
Situation: The teacher had promised to return your test on Monday. It is now Friday and you still don’t know how you did.
Discussion
1. Which responses were the most difficult for you to compose: the passive, aggressive, or assertive?
2. Would others who know you well say you are more passive, aggressive, or assertive in dealing with
conflicts and problem solving? Explain.
3. Do you think there are gender differences in certain styles?
