Discussion topic: Based on the information(below TEDex) and assignments(below) in this module what are some some steps a person can take to overcome a risk of ‘Isolation’ as an adult?
Overcoming the Fear of Love | Trillion Small | TEDxSMUWomen
Assignment(I will do this assignment, but you can use it as a source for the response of below discussion post) : Authentic Happiness Virtual Field Trip Connected to the happiness that love and intimacy can bring, please explore the website for the Authentic Happiness, located at the University of Pennsylvania and founded by Positive Psychology pioneer Dr. Martin Seligman.
Although there are no formal activities for this assignment, please consider taking some of the questionnaires (free registration required) – the most well know of which is the Brief Strengths Test. Believe it or not, one reason I’m suggesting this site relates to sports: To have a successful long-term relationship and achieve intimacy, it helps to be a ‘fan’ or your partner. For example, being loyal to your partner even if they often disappoint you, and sticking up for them if someone else criticizes them; this is where it helps to be well-versed in your partner’s strengths and accomplishments.
https://www.authentichappiness.sas.upenn.edu/Links to an external site.
Text: Broderick, P.C. & Blewitt, P (2020). The Life Span (5th ed.). Pearson. ISBN-13: 978-0135208687
You can use “https://ru.b-ok.cc/book/18756485/11eae7” as a textbook if you can’t find above text.
Discussion post: A person avoids isolation by making sure they avoid an unhealthy dependency, by refusing avoidance, and by being willing to be rejected. They can also build intimacy in relationships (family, friendship, romantic) by applying this framework to other areas of their life. Ive navigated the isolation continuum, at both ends, in all areas of my lifenot just in relationships with other people. Ive stayed in jobs where I had an unhealthy dependence on a poor fit or a shift that was destroying my health. I tried to major in something I hated. I stayed in an area of the country with miserable winters because I was afraid of the consequences of moving somewhere sunnier and (most of the time) warmer. I quit a few opportunities that I did want because they were more stressful than I had initially realized.
The common thread here is vulnerability. Vulnerability is required to negotiate these conflicts in all areas. The skills it takes to build intimacy also build careers, character, morals, ethics, finances, and even health in some ways. It will also help, as pointed out in the Ted Talk, to understand what is actually happening in the brain and body when we feel afraid.
